Deference

ˈdɛfərəns

noun

respectful submission or yielding to the judgment, opinion, will, etc., of another

Deference comes from the Latin word 'deferre', meaning 'to yield' or 'to give way'. It implies showing respect or polite regard for someone else's opinions, wishes, or judgment.

Like the other villagers, she had always accorded me the deference due my rank; but now, without word said on either side, she and I changed places; she gave orders, not suggestions.

Mark Twain

Personal Recollections of Joan of Arc

The fact is, that you were sick of civility, of deference, of officious attention.

Jane Austen

Pride and Prejudice

A deference such as he had never before received was shown him.

Leo Tolstoy

War and Peace

“Detestation of the high is the involuntary homage of the low.” “There is not,” pursued the nephew, in his former tone, “a face I can look at, in all this country round about us, which looks at me with any deference on it but the dark deference of fear and slavery.” “A compliment,” said the Marquis, “to the grandeur of the family, merited by the manner in which the family has sustained its grandeur.

Charles Dickens

A Tale of Two Cities

The young men drew back from Paul as she came up to him, and she found herself momentarily dismayed by the new deference they paid him.

Herbert, Frank

Dune

But Iris sees the truth in Margarethe’s observation: Although Henrika wears a guise of pretty deference, she acquiesces to no one, least of all her husband.

Gregory Maguire

Confessions of an Ugly Step Sister

With every boat which we have overhauled since then this trick has succeeded; we have had every deference shown to us, and not once any objection to whatever we chose to ask or do.

Bram Stoker

Dracula

Like the sheaves of rice in Joseph’s dream, like a press of eager natives petitioning an English magistrate, the old houses had been arranged around the History House in attitudes of deference.

Arundhati Roy

The god of small things

To press the matter would have seemed to be doubting his word, and never in their lives had any one of them ever spoken to a person of the class called “gentleman” except with deference and humility.

Upton Sinclair

The Jungle

At last, in deference to my love, forbear To lodge within thy soul this anxious care; Reclin’d upon my breast, thy grief unload: Who should relieve the goddess, but the god?

Virgil

The Aeneid

They know no other way of protecting themselves from their bad conscience than by playing the role of executors of older and higher orders (of predecessors, of the constitution, of justice, of the law, or of God himself), or they even justify themselves by maxims from the current opinions of the herd, as “first servants of their people,” or “instruments of the public weal.” On the other hand, the gregarious European man nowadays assumes an air as if he were the only kind of man that is allowable, he glorifies his qualities, such as public spirit, kindness, deference, industry, temperance, modesty, indulgence, sympathy, by virtue of which he is gentle, endurable, and useful to the herd, as the peculiarly human virtues.

Friedrich Nietzsche

Beyond Good and Evil

They say that not the highest nobility of the Galaxy could achieve the honor and deference considered only the natural due of a simple man who could say ‘I am a citizen of the Foundation,’ – were he only a salvage miner of space, or a nothing like myself.” Bayta said, “Now, Magnifico, you’ll never finish if you make speeches.

Asimov, Isaac

Foundation 2 - Foundation and Empire

If she were highborn, command would come naturally to her, and deference to them.

George R. R. Martin

A Feast for Crows

He made his way along the corridors through force of habit; he threw aside his magisterial robe, not out of deference to etiquette, but because it was an unbearable burden, a veritable garb of Nessus, insatiate in torture.

Alexandre Dumas

The Count of Monte Cristo

Gentlemen, which means boys, be courteous to the old maids, no matter how poor and plain and prim, for the only chivalry worth having is that which is the readiest to pay deference to the old, protect the feeble, and serve womankind, regardless of rank, age, or color.

Louisa May Alcott

Little Women

“Dear me—is it possible?” observed the clerk, while his face assumed an expression of great deference and servility—if not of absolute alarm: “what, a son of that very Semen Rogojin—hereditary honourable citizen—who died a month or so ago and left two million and a half of roubles?” “And how do you know that he left two million and a half of roubles?” asked Rogojin, disdainfully, and not deigning so much as to look at the other.

Fyodor Dostoevsky

The Idiot

He told himself that he must do his duty; that perhaps he should not be more unhappy after doing his duty than after having avoided it; that if he “allowed things to take their own course,” if he remained at Montreuil-sur-Mer, his consideration, his good name, his good works, the deference and veneration paid to him, his charity, his wealth, his popularity, his virtue, would be seasoned with a crime.

Victor Hugo

Les Misérables

Very touching was his deference to Nana.

J. M. Barrie

Peter and Wendy

Like the police cars which had already arrived, its howler was off in deference to the hour, but it had a full roofrack of red lights, and they were strobing wildly.

Stephen King

Insomnia

I think it not inconsistent with obedience, humility, deference, and self-questioning.

Walt Whitman

Leaves of Grass

Geeyah, roll, old boat, roll!” The magnificent car made the wind roar; it made the plains unfold like a roll of paper; it cast hot tar from itself with deference—an imperial boat.

Jack Kerouac

On the Road

The labours of men of genius, however erroneously directed, scarcely ever fail in ultimately turning to the solid advantage of mankind.” I listened to his statement, which was delivered without any presumption or affectation, and then added that his lecture had removed my prejudices against modern chemists; I expressed myself in measured terms, with the modesty and deference due from a youth to his instructor, without letting escape (inexperience in life would have made me ashamed) any of the enthusiasm which stimulated my intended labours.

Mary Wollstonecraft Shelley

Frankenstein; Or, The Modern Prometheus

This bursting freedom of speech seemed to respect nothing on earth except King Hussein: towards himself he exacted deference, more so than did Abdulla, who was always playing tricks with his companions, the bevy of silk-clad fellows who came about him when he would be easy.

T. E. Lawrence

Seven Pillars of Wisdom

She handled the machine with a deference which had originated as awe and moved reluctantly into fearsome excitement.

Frank Herbert

God Emperor of Dune

“Wait down here if you wanna.” Babbitt had spoken with the deference which all the Clan of Good Fellows give to hotel clerks.

Sinclair Lewis

Babbitt

I am aware that two palaeontologists, whose opinions are worthy of much deference, namely Bronn and Woodward, have concluded that the average duration of each formation is twice or thrice as long as the average duration of specific forms.

Charles Darwin

The Origin of Species

“What do you want here, sadhuji?”—Musa, unable to avoid deference; to which the sadhu, calm as a lake: “I have come to await the coming of the One.”

Salman Rushdie

Midnight's Children: A Novel

Whether through exactitude in a foreign language, or in deference to his master (who had been somewhat deaf), Magnus’s tones had a peculiarly ringing and piercing quality, and the whole group quite jumped when he spoke.

G. K. Chesterton

The Innocence of Father Brown

Emma, in fact, was showing herself more docile, and even carried her deference so far as to ask for a recipe for pickling gherkins.

Gustave Flaubert

Madame Bovary

One of the squires observed in his mixture of Gascon and Catalan, “This captain of ours would make a better friar than highwayman; if he wants to be so generous another time, let it be with his own property and not ours.” The unlucky wight did not speak so low but that Roque overheard him, and drawing his sword almost split his head in two, saying, “That is the way I punish impudent saucy fellows.” They were all taken aback, and not one of them dared to utter a word, such deference did they pay him.

Miguel de Cervantes Saavedra

Don Quixote

The chaplain was moved almost to tears by the harassed, bedraggled picture the captain presented, and he filled with deference and compassion at the thought of the many severe rigors the poor man had to endure daily.

Heller, Joseph

Catch-22

To whom the king: "With reverence we allow Thy just rebukes, yet learn to spare them now: My generous brother is of gentle kind, He seems remiss, but bears a valiant mind; Through too much deference to our sovereign sway, Content to follow when we lead the way: But now, our ills industrious to prevent, Long ere the rest he rose, and sought my tent.

Homer

The Iliad